Madonna Is The Perfect Example of White People Who Should Not Be Allowed To Transracially Adopt

Madonna Is The Perfect Example of White People Who Should Not Be Allowed To Transracially Adopt

You know people ask me all the time if I think white people should be able to adopt transracially. I would love to say "Yes! Please! Adopt and give these children a home!" but unfortunately people like Madonna make it really hard for me to do that. Now I will say that generally I do think white people should adopt, transracially or not with a few conditions I'll talk about another day/ I also think that Madonna represents a minority of white adoptive parents, but nonetheless, she and other ignorant white folks adopting brown kids exist and it is people like her that make me extremely scared for transracial adoptees. 

Earlier this week, Madonna announced via Instagram that she was adopted twin girls from Malawi. 

Now when I saw this, I thought it was a joke. Unfortunately, it is not. An agency actually allowed publicly anti-black, racist white woman to adopted more black children solely because she is rich. This is one of my biggest issues with the adoption system. There is absolutely no concern for the brown children being put into homes of white parents who are deeply racist. It's not just Madonna, it happens all the time. I personally know many. A quick google search will show you some horror stories about extreme racists adopting brown kids and doing horrible things to them. In Madonna's case. Putting aside a entire career built off appropriation, and tokenizing people of color, especially the queer black community, in 2014 she also called her son "dis nigga" on Instagram.  I would also let to mention that she called her white son that. If she is calling her white child "nigga" publicly, I shudder to think of what she casually refers to her black ones as in the privacy of their home. Following this incident, after being dragged for a few days on social media, she got tired of it and basically told people to shut the fuck up and get over it, claiming it is a term of endearment. Madonna then proceeded to parade around her black kids at the next few social events as if to say "Hey look at me, I can't be racist, when I have nigga kids!". After this incident she posted a photo of her two black children David and Mercy James, on their knees rubbing her feet. Now had this been posted in any other context, it wouldn't be a big deal. But the fact that she posted it after calling her child a nigga and parading her black kids around like tokens just makes it seem a little slavery-ish. 

It's disgusting. 

To top it all off, she has made numerous comments dismissing racism, my personal favorite being her comparing ageism to racism and homophobia.

No one would dare to say a degrading remark about being black or dare to say a degrading remark on Instagram about someone being gay. But my age — anybody and everybody would say something degrading to me. And I always think to myself, why is that accepted? What’s the difference between that and racism, or any discrimination? They’re judging me by my age. I don’t understand. I’m trying to get my head around it.

I personally find this quote hilarious because she herself has said degrading things about black people and gay people, but like a true white feminist, she only cares when it's about herself. 

The worst part about all this and other families in these same situations, is the kids don't even know what is happening. They probably won't until they're well into adulthood. I didn't realize how much shortcomings my parents had well into college. A report came out the other day that the new twin girls are happy and of course they are. I'm sure they left terrible conditions and came to america living with one of the richest celebrities here, being showered with luxuries, what child wouldn't be? However, just because they don't know what their being robbed of, does not make it okay. And the types of self hate they are no doubt being fed by Madonna unknowingly is disgusting. They will get to be adults and wonder why they hate black women, or think black folks who act/talk/dress a certain way as lesser than them and more. We see it all the time. I see it in my family. How many black adoptees truly think they are white and value whiteness above themselves because their white parents never taught them to be proud of who they are. 

So, this is just yet another flaw in our system. There needs to be a more vigorous screening and education process to allow transracial adoption. There needs to be an end put to simply handing over kids to whichever white person offers the most money. We aren't cattle. Our lives, history and culture matters. Don't adopt us if you aren't going to do it right and fuck Madonna forever. 

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