Reparations Is A Cop Out Solution That Solves Nothing

It’s an election year, and 937 people have decided to take a chance at running for office, thus we are being bombarded with every single candidate throwing out their promises to take on some giant issue in America, so we all feel good and vote, knowing damn well they ain’t never going to do it. Universal income, wiping out student loans and now, reparations have been thrown into the ring.

New York Times best selling author Marianne Williamson has thrown her hat in the ring for the 2020 election. The issue she has brought to the table, is reparations and repentance. You can read her full take on the issue on her website, but here is a little snippet of her ideas.

Our current racial dramas have their roots hundreds of years ago, and nothing less than pulling out those roots will heal the situation today. America needs to reconcile with our racial history — seeking genuine atonement and making meaningful amends. Until such time, tortured race relations will continue to plague us with more and more tragic results.

It’s interesting that we even use the phrase “race relations,” given how little we register that this is even about a relationship. The relationship between blacks and whites as groups in America is psychologically and emotionally dysfunctional, to say the least, and until this is dealt with on the level of the cause and not just effects, we will continue to play out over and over again the cycle of violence at its core.

-Marianne Williamson, Race & Repentance In America

Now, black folks have been having this conversation about reparations since slavery “ended”, but now, because of this election year, white people are being forced to talk about publically it too. While I’m glad this conversation is being had on a larger scale. I have a lot of issues with the idea of reparations for black people and with this particular plan (that isn’t really a plan), for 3 main reasons.

How Do You Decide Who Qualifies?

I know America still wants to pretend all black people are the same, but we aren’t. The diaspora is LARGE and incredibly diverse. How are we supposed to determine which black people in America are to receive these reparations? Do immigrants qualify? Do mixed black people qualify? What if you’re only 1/4 black or 1/8 black? Do you still qualify? Do we just give it to all black people in america even if they are not descendants of slaves? Is it one lump sum? How about dark skin people who've suffered more? Is it a sliding scale based on shade? What if you are a descendant of slaves but can’t prove it with paperwork because white people have refused to let us keep our historical documents? Our history is largely oral. How does work? What if you’re a descendant of both a slave and a slave owner?

How can you create a truly just system of handing out reparations to an entire race of people? It’s a slippery slope that I am not interested in exploring. You’re either going to have to give it to everybody or nobody.

Why Does This Conversation Not Include Other People of Color?

In this proposal from Williamson, she focuses on race issues between black and white people, which is fine, but America has blatantly destroy and slaughtered other races besides just black people. What reparations are we giving to those families at the border white america keeps seperating? Hell or all the legal mexicans who got deported because white people decided to move the border? How about native americans whose entire country we just took over while murdering all their people? Asian americans that got thrown in concentration camps? What is going to happen about that? You can’t base your whole platform on righting the wrongs America has caused against other races and then only acknowledge one race that was wronged. America has fucked over a lot of minorities and they all deserve to be cut in on this conversation.

Ok…And Then What?

This is my biggest issue with the reparations conversation. Ok, say all black people in America get a big ol’e check for however many thousands of dollars because…slavery. what? Was racism magically solved and I can go about living my life as a black woman in America without being murdered by a white man or a police officer? Will our kids stop being kicked out of school for having kinky hair? We will stop being murdered in our own homes because “whoops my bad”? Will all the wrongly convicted black people be let out of prison? Will y’all finally go get Flint some fucking clean water? No, literally nothing will happen. We will have a little bit of money to pay Sallie Mae back for that degree we can’t use because of racism.

Reparations mean nothing unless the core white supremacist system that this country runs on, is demolished. If I stab you, then hand you a $100 bill, is that going to stop you from bleeding? Is it going to stop the pain? No, you still got stabbed, you’re still bleeding, you just got a temporary aid to go towards your outrageously high medical bill that is about to come. That is why we talk so much about the definition of racism being more than just “I’m mean because of your skin”. This country’s race problem runs so deep that it cannot be solved by writing a couple of checks. This can’t be solved with money. This can only be solved by dismantling the system completely and starting over with laws and a constitution that values equity.

So while yes, a big check sounds nice, it isn’t going to do anything in the long run. I think this conversation is a way for white america to feel like they’re doing something without actually having to change and do work. The best form of a reparation to me is to dismantle white supremacy in america. Get rid of it so that I, and the next generation on black people to come after me, don’t need to live in fear 24/7 because there are no consequences for white people being racist.

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Have You Heard of Blackfishing? Let's Talk About It

If you aren’t hip to this weird racist beauty trend that has been happening lately, there seems to be many beauty influencers on Youtube and Instagram that are using darker color makeup, traditionally black hairstyles and creating other “black” feature, in order to make themselves seem or appear “black”.


Even Ariana Grande has been accused of participating in this trend. Many people have notice her skin is drastically darker than its original color. It doesn’t help that she seems to be quickly speeding down that lane of “white girl using hip hop for profit” with her new song “7 Rings” in which she stole imagery from rapper 2 Chainz and a sample from Soulja Boi, whom only got credited on the song, when She was publicly called out on twitter.


I have had many messages from people asking me my thoughts on this trend and I really only have three things to say about it.

We Know Why This Is Happening.

Blackness has always been popular, black people have not. And this is why we, people of color, make such a fuss about cultural appropriation. It’s not just was wanting to hoard our cultures for ourselves, It is the fact that white people want to take the parts of black they like while simultaneously getting rid of black people. Same applies to every other ethnic group y’all love to appropriate. It’s cultural genocide. I’ve never seen Ariana or these other beauty influencers out on the front lines fighting or advocating for black people’s rights. Have you? Of course you haven’t. They never do.

Call It What It Is—It’s Blackface

I really REALLY hate this new term “blackfishing”. This trend was actually originally coined as "“niggerfishing” (which I hate even more) by someone on twitter. I’m really tired of people coming up with cute hashtag terms to describe blatantly racist behavior. This is blackface, call it blackface. Do you know why there is a such an uproar, worldwide when someone is called out for blackface? Because we have over 400 years of racial history and context to back it up. People know what means and why it’s disgustingly racist. When y’all create these cute, hastagable terms for racist acts that have been happening for centuries— a) no one knows what the hell you’re talking about, b) no one takes it seriously because there is no context or history attached to “blackfishing” to prove why it’s a problem. No need to call a duck a sophisticated chicken, it’s a duck. Call it what it is.

When Tanning Becomes Problematic

The most common response I see to this blackfishing conversation is people stating that it’s just tanning? Tanning in itself is rooted in being problematic. Tanning was originally based in classism. Only the rich who had money and time to travel to places with warm climate to tan on the beach. Today, with tanning machines, pretty much anyone can get in on the tanning trend and some folks take it too far. One really could ask why there is an obsession at all with needing to change your skin color. I also think there is a vast difference between a natural tan you get from the sun and that from a tanning bed. The sun isn’t going to give white people a “black” tan, fake tans do. Look if y’all for whatever reason, want to go out and get your little tans on the beach, fine, but when you’re going to the point of drastically changing your skin color, that is a problem. It’s racism and blackface.


Just be a white girl. Damn y’all.

Let’s Talk About DNA Testing For Adoptees

Thanks to technology and capitalism, we now have the ability to pay $100+ to send out spit to strangers and have them tell us everything about our past and sometimes, future. It’s an invention that can be very helpful to a lot of people like my fellow adoptees. For other it may just be for fun or maybe horrifying like these racists who keep doing them and being shocked to find out they got some black in them (wonder how that happened).

All jokes aside though, it actually has proved to be something very useful for adoptees. As anyone involved with adoption know, getting complete and/or accurate records of pretty much anything in adoption, is laughable. Most of us don’t have proper records of of our family history. Some of us don’t get the luxury of reconnecting with birth families or having a family history lesson from them. A lot of adoptees are out here trying to piece together our family heritage and stories on our own and DNA testing has helped to provide some answers. That being said, there is a concern around the morality of DNA testing adoptees, particularly those who are young. This debate has been happening for some time in the adoption community. The concern lies around if parents should get testing for their adoptees or should they wait until their adoptee is an adult and can choose on their own. I see some pros and cons to both sides of this discussion and wanted to share some thoughts.

Protecting The Adoptee’s Story

As an adoptee myself, I am an advocate of letting adoptees tell their own story. In order to do that, they need to be in control of how they discover themselves as well. I always tell parents to not go behind their adoptee’s back and try to connect with birth families, or establish relationships with birth families without adoptee’s consent. It's not their place, at the end of the day, they aren’t the ones who are going to be hurt if that relationship fails or doesn’t provide the closure needed. I kind of feel the same way about DNA testing. It does feel like an invasion of privacy of an adoptee or really anyone, to just take their DNA and start looking into their past. If the adoptee is not old enough to fully understand the results or what they can dig up, then it could be more hurtful that positive.

Waiting Too Long Could Affect The Results

On the other side of the argument, I can also see how if you wait 18+ years to do the testing, or any other form of searching for information—the results may be harder to find. The one thing positive thing is that the DNA isn’t going anywhere, it’ll always be there to test. However, if you wait too long relatives could have passed or have moved, or whatever else may happen.

What Is The Intent?

There are many reasons you might want a DNA test. I did mine with 23 & Me last year and I didn’t do it to find family. I am already reconnected with my birth family. I was actually more interested in the health profile and a bit curious what the ethnic results would look like. I feel a little more okay with it if you are doing it for health reasons. I think a lot of us would benefit from knowing more about our family health history. I’m 27 and never had a single bit of information about what kind of health issues run in my family. Who knows what may pop up. However at the same time, morally, I just still have a weird feeling about taking someone else’s DNA without true consent.

Privacy Issues

There as been a lot of concern about these DNA testing companies sharing your profiles and information. Recently it was made known that the police are able to access DNA profiles from these sites, and that has spooked some people. They actually caught the Golden State Killer by doing this. There is a concern about children’s (and everyone else’s) DNA information being able to be accessed. I personally, don’t really care. Yes, it can be an invasion of privacy, but also, I’m not planning on murdering anyone and if you want to clone me you’ll be severely disappointed. However, I understand the concern that many have and that is something to think about.

So What Should You Do?

I don’t really have a exact answer for you. I see both sides of the argument, I think there can be some advantages if you can get the information early on but I also think there’s something a bit wrong with taking people’s DNA before they can consent to it and fully understand what comes along with that. So I would tell you to think about what you’re real end goal is here. Are you just curious? Is it for a serious health concern? Are you trying to track down family members? Think about it for a minute before making an impulse decision and at the very least, I would wait until adoptees are old enough to have a coherent conversation about it.

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Why I Refused To Watch 'The Hate U Give'

About a year after I moved out to Los Angeles from Boston, I got a text from my cousin. She asked me for my mailing address because she found a book she thought I might like. My cousin, (who is also a TRA but from Taiwan) and I share a mutual love of film and reading. When we both lived in Boston, we frequently swapped book ideas and went to see films together. Naturally when she told me she was going to send me a book, I was all for it. New book to read, I’m there.

A couple weeks later, her package arrives. I open it and it’s a brand new copy of the book by Angie Thomas, “The Hate U Give”. I had heard nothing but praise about the book from pretty much every black person and activist I follow and look up to. I should have been excited to read the shit out of it. However, when I opened it up, instead of the normal feeling of excitement, black power and joy I usually get from supporting my fellow black women, I felt immediately exhausted. I don’t know if you remember, but this book came out just last year, in February. This was also the time that we had an influx of police shooting, and brutality videos hitting us what felt like every hour, on the hour. Every time I opened up anything that was connected to the internet, there was a new video or story about a black person being murdered by police. We were also right off the heels of movements like Ferguson, and Flint, not too long afterwards, the rally in Charlottesville riot happened, and so many other instances of black people being brutally abused by white people and the law. It was and still is an overwhelming non-stop wave of violence against my people. Despite how much I really do want to read the book and support this young black woman, I mentally cannot take anymore stories about the abuse of my people. Especially fictional stories.

This is exactly why I did not watch the film adaptation either. In fact, I made a deliberate pact with myself that I wasn’t going to watch any movie about the violence against black people. Especially ones that are fictional. I have always been very outspoken about my disgust with Hollywood’s black representation. Furthermore the fact that the only big ‘black films’ that seem to get greenlit are ones where we are victims and suffer at the hands of white people or in which white people get to be saviors. That is why we made such a big deal out of Black Panther. An almost 100% black cast and crew, majority dark skin cast and we have our own narrative that has nothing to do with white people? It’s literally unheard of for a movie of that scale. Jordan Peele had to fight tooth and nail to get a shit budget so he could make Get Out and they still pushed back against that movie. Had he made another slave movie or a movie about a white person killing black folks, every movie studio would have signed on to fund it in 30 seconds.

So just like I skipped 12 Years A Slave, Blindspotting, and whatever other black film hollywood has tried to give us, I refused to watch The Hate U Give too. They could be great films, I don’t know or really care. Shout out to the people involved, get your money and your IMDB credits, good luck. I wish them no ill will at all. I however, shall not be there. I simply cannot sit through another movie about the killing of my people when we already are dealing with that in real life. Why would I want to go watch my people face racism and death on screen for entertainment when I can literally just walk outside and have it happen to me 15 times a day?

Just last week as I was walking down Sunset blvd to my car after work, some white man driving past yelled “fucking nigger” out the window at me, minding my own business. He sped past cackling, and I caught a glimpse of the multiple Trump/MAGA bumper stickers on his car. Yes, even in fake progressive Los Angeles, people are still calling us niggers. My point is, we as black people—me personally, am living this reality, I don’t want to pay $18 for a movie ticket to watch a fictional story about it on screen too. I just don’t and I don’t have to. This is why I will always support shows like Atlanta and Blackish, shows that allow black people to simply just be regular damn people living their everyday lives. I’m tired of every piece of black media needing to be a political movement or statement in order to be validated. Our daily lives are not political movements, we’re just regular people out here trying to work and pay bills on time like everyone else. Where are our movies and shows that allow us to be human beings? Those are the pieces of media I will go out to support.

One day I will get around to reading “The Hate U Give” but I have a feeling it’s going to be awhile. Until we get out of this hell hole we’re living in which black people can’t even walk into their own apartments or have a BBQ in the park without being harrassed by racists, I won’t be consuming these pieces of literature or film. For my own mental wellbeing, I simply can’t.


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